My Life Is My Message,You're only lazy during sex, if you expect your partner to do all the work and you only have to lay back. It's ok to be lazy occasionally, just not all the time. I have been with a couple women that were quiet. It didn't bother me, because I could still listen to breathing to get my cues from. Sometimes the sexiest noise a woman makes is that quick little intake of breath. About the sexy voice, if your turned on and enjoying yourself, your voice will change a little. That's not really something you can fake or practice. It's something he should be proud he accomplished, not something you should feel bad about not doing.