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Looking is easy... Finding, however, is hard.  

Looking_in_NS 57M/52F
7 posts
2/20/2020 8:39 pm
Looking is easy... Finding, however, is hard.


So...

We've been here before and now we are back. Some profiles are the same and a few new ones listed as well...lol

As a couple that do not attend hardly any events, it is hard to find people of like mind. Oh sure, it's easy to flip through profiles and look at what they say and perv their pics. Even easier to hit the Like or Hot List buttons but to enter into a conversation to determine compatibility can be difficult. Even with the selection on here, it can be hard.

For example, my wife is allergic to cigarette smoke, even the smell of it. So that drops a fair number of profiles out of our search. It is a shame too, as there are some that we would like to get to know but...😶

Then come all the single male contacts, asking for pics or to meet right away. Read the profile, that's not going to happen.

We are interested in how many actually find playmates in here, versus local meets and dances.

Add your two cents worth and let us know what you've found.

B

Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
2/20/2020 11:20 pm

I agree it is hard. For me for different reasons. One is I am not a cougar so no younger men. Like you no fast meets. If I want any age, attached men, fast meet etc it would be easier. Not even looking. If I was I would hold out for what I want. Not what others want.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


Yours_4A_knight 59M

2/21/2020 1:07 am

I have been on for several years this time and have come to see that quality people are even more unmeetable now than they were the first couple of times I joined, and being very ready to say thank you but no to people you are sure are just not going to work out makes a daunting task even more unlikely.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


windsjohn 72M  
798 posts
2/21/2020 7:34 am

I have met a few people from here and yes it is very hard to find a good fit.. I've been here since 2007 and I keep plugging away. It happens but not as often as I'd like.


forgotforgetting 57M
8134 posts
2/21/2020 8:56 am

I gave up meeting or looking to meet. Through the blogs I got to know a few but only met a couple. It doesn't help that the site tries to monetize anything that resembles fun or interesting, particularly anything that allows people to connect.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde


Great_eight 58M
1561 posts
2/22/2020 4:19 am

I suggest being patient, finding a suitable couple may take time but finding a solo male should be easy. The solo guys outnumber the women and couples by a huge margin. The local chat room will be the easiest way to make contacts because the site makes it difficult to communicate with non paying members through IM or personal messages. Good luck finding what you are seeking


pictounsguy 65M
19 posts
3/9/2020 3:51 am

I agree it is hard to start a conversation here other than the HI. How are you kind of thing. Need to find someone who wants the same take your time


cwazywabbit009 59M
6313 posts
7/1/2020 9:26 pm

It is unfortunate that most don't bother to read profiles [those with gold memberships], or bother to at least hover over your profile to see what you are looking for. The chat room [Eastern Canada] is a good way to start things off initially, letting you see how people interact with others, at least virtually. If you blog, as we both do, you can peek into their mind a bit. I have attended quite a few dances over the years, Hali, Dart, SJ, Fton, and Truro and have met a lot of great people. Some were people I had chatted with in the chat room, some not. The playmates that I have had the pleasure of meeting were all through the chat room and then meeting them, with the exceptional of my current gf, who I met through a friend from the chat room Some were met one on one, at a coffee meet, or at a l/s event. With my gf of 4 years, we have been very fortunate to have met some great couples that we connected with. Some were friends of mine, some were hers, and some were new to the both of us. Key for us is not having any expectations and just being ourselves. Sometimes there is a connect, most times there isn't, and that's ok.
Best of luck going forward.

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