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BIigDJ71863 60M
97 posts
3/14/2019 5:39 pm

I prefer women closer to my age than the "18yr old hottie " you describe. I want a woman who knows what she needs and understands how to communicate that to her partner. The ideal partner for me is confident in how she looks, knows what she wants, is willing to help explain that, and wants the same from her partner.


FBWC342 52M
446 posts
3/14/2019 6:05 pm

I don't have a conscious age or level of attractiveness in my head that I'm aware of. Besides, I've been blindsided at times with confidence so it's probably a bad idea for me to cling to any such preconceptions.

Quick story: I ran into a coworker on the way into work and she had dressed up a bit for some reason (can't remember it off the top of my head). She was headed into the restroom to change but I complimented her on her appearance. She took it well, enough that it put more than a little strut in her step as she turned and walked away to change. That confident (and I'll admit, sexy) strut got my attention, and it wasn't terribly long after that that we started seeing each other.

She wasn't what you'd call a conventional beauty, and the age difference wasn't that huge, but that little incident showed me that confidence can at least be attention-getting, if not outright sexy.


backpocket13 50M
9007 posts
3/14/2019 6:19 pm

Hey Darlin,
I’m going to go out on a limb here by saying that personality goes a long way as far as attractiveness goes, and intelligence is always sexy, Hell, I’d take smarts over confidence any old day of the week.
If she can’t hold my attention, she can’t hold my,.............hand.
Then again I am a strange cat.
Sinfully Yours backpocket13


mindworker1970 53M
328 posts
3/14/2019 7:01 pm

I am not a conventionally attractive man so when someone in my age range... 10 yrs from my age... contacts me, that is attractive. The confidence to reach out is very sexy. Intelligence is sexy. A great sense of humour is sexy, but very subjective.


skimmylovesBBW 40M

3/14/2019 9:50 pm

    Quoting mindworker1970:
    I am not a conventionally attractive man so when someone in my age range... 10 yrs from my age... contacts me, that is attractive. The confidence to reach out is very sexy. Intelligence is sexy. A great sense of humour is sexy, but very subjective.
Most people want someone more attractive than themselves.

It might be unrealistic but you can't blame someone for trying their luck.

Nothing wrong with shooting for your best possible options first.


SelflessLover068 64M

3/15/2019 3:19 am

I wish women would ask
And although I find a young lil hottie attractive I have to believe they are only after one thing... And I don't have it.
Have a grrrrrrrrrrrrrrreat day


rm_WordsWolf 57M
311 posts
3/17/2019 10:15 pm

Ugh - you may not believe it, but I see all ages and have attractions to many 'types' of women in my life. I see women who just know how to show something about themselves, and that is attractive - it's an array of qualities, confidence, vulnerability, humor, quirkiness, bluntness, playfulness, etc... no one outweighing another. It is not beauty, but it's beautiful! Sure, I imagine sex with many women, but shiny, whiny, waxed, 'young and dumb', submissive women are such a turn-off!! It's like hiring a speaking, mechanical doll to adore oneself... why bother? I hope others can see that in most cases porn stars are barely capable of portraying 'mind blowing sex', never mind portraying enjoying themselves!

As for hook-ups... I can't stomach them and find them soul crushing. I want to know a person, at least a FWB, for unencumbered sex to even feel good.

And if I'd been concerned with looks, I'd have missed out on several of the most important relationships in my life, and I'd not give those up for anything! I've been lucky, even though now I am bereft and lonely, and feeling your pain.

WW.


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